Ok, I need to breathe. I'm a little perturbed and I'm looking to vent. But I have an issue. I have a habit of critiquing other's writing because I want to see what I'm adding to in the world of blogs. And I just recently read one that has rubbed me the wrong way.
In the blog the girl blasted guys for not going out and finding the one. And she definitely had some great points, but my problem? She misses the real point. And I actually think this is more for her own personal feelings. Why do I think this? Well, because I spent years devoting my life to dating God, and in the process of dating God I experienced that we don't search for the one God has for us. No. We search for Christ. And in the process of searching for Christ we discover our fullness in Him, and realize our need for God alone. I've spent YEARS learning to unlearn the thing that has been pushed into boys and girls minds.. we all need to find someone to settle down with and marry. Yeah. Great. That's awesome and stuff, but how about the fact that there's 7 BILLION people on the this planet. Imagine all the single people of the world deciding to just spend time on seeking the "one". My thought is when we take our eyes off of God and start searching for that "special someone" that's when we get into trouble. Jesus will be the only "One" that will satisfy you. That leaves a lot of unsatisfied people out there if they're only seeking a mate. If God means for you to get married, then let Him tell you. And in God's timing it will work out. But don't force something that needs to simmer. God's timing is never off. If there's a season of singleness in our lives its there for a reason. I don't know about this girl, but I have no desire to date a guy who's working to finding that certain someone. Sound crazy? Let me explain....
Men need guidance. Their heart needs to be right with God, so they need to seek God. No woman should claim to know what is going on inside the heart or mind of a man, no matter the circumstance. Playing video games does not make him lazy, it's the unseen things that GOD sees that make a person lazy. Motivations, desires', passion, a purpose.. these are things that can only be found when seeking God. And it is an intimate relationship issue between God and men. She speaks as though she understands more than God about situations. Last person that had to learn a lesson from that was Job, and look what happened to the friends that thought they knew more about the situation than Job.. God, Himself, let them know it's not their business to be spouting off about another's life. In the end Job's patience was what God saw.
And what about those Men seeking after women? The best place to find her is with God.
"A woman's heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man should have to SEEK Him first to find her."-Maya Angelou
In the blog she also uses chapter 24 of Genesis for her scripture base, and forgets a key factor... finding a wife for Isaac wasn't about finding a wife for Isaac only. It was about keeping a covenant God made with Abraham, and guess what? Isaac didn't go seek her out, the servant did, because his father wanted to find him a wife. Abraham even specifically told the servant not to let Isaac go with him.. so Isaac had no control over the choice of his wife. It was completely God. Isaac didn't pick her, God did. Isaac didn't go after her, God brought her to him. This really is an amazing story of faith. Isaac's wife wasn't just some girl picked out of a crowd, God planned this even before the events took place. God's plans are much greater than we can imagine, so assuming that a guy isn't chasing after you means he's lazy isn't really a great way to think. And saying that men only find a woman when they chase after them is a stretch. That gives no room for the Holy Spirit! Jesus points out many times to the pharisees that it's not works that get you anywhere, it's faith. Sure, faith without works is dead, but you have to have faith first! Obedience before understanding! God wants us focused on HIM! And as He draws us to Him, HE will bring the one who He has called into our lives! We have to trust this. If not, then we are not relying on God, we are relying on our own blind desires.
And hey, if I'm wrong, then she has every right to call me on it.
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