Ok, I need to breathe. I'm a little perturbed and I'm looking to vent. But I have an issue. I have a habit of critiquing other's writing because I want to see what I'm adding to in the world of blogs. And I just recently read one that has rubbed me the wrong way.
In the blog the girl blasted guys for not going out and finding the one. And she definitely had some great points, but my problem? She misses the real point. And I actually think this is more for her own personal feelings. Why do I think this? Well, because I spent years devoting my life to dating God, and in the process of dating God I experienced that we don't search for the one God has for us. No. We search for Christ. And in the process of searching for Christ we discover our fullness in Him, and realize our need for God alone. I've spent YEARS learning to unlearn the thing that has been pushed into boys and girls minds.. we all need to find someone to settle down with and marry. Yeah. Great. That's awesome and stuff, but how about the fact that there's 7 BILLION people on the this planet. Imagine all the single people of the world deciding to just spend time on seeking the "one". My thought is when we take our eyes off of God and start searching for that "special someone" that's when we get into trouble. Jesus will be the only "One" that will satisfy you. That leaves a lot of unsatisfied people out there if they're only seeking a mate. If God means for you to get married, then let Him tell you. And in God's timing it will work out. But don't force something that needs to simmer. God's timing is never off. If there's a season of singleness in our lives its there for a reason. I don't know about this girl, but I have no desire to date a guy who's working to finding that certain someone. Sound crazy? Let me explain....
Men need guidance. Their heart needs to be right with God, so they need to seek God. No woman should claim to know what is going on inside the heart or mind of a man, no matter the circumstance. Playing video games does not make him lazy, it's the unseen things that GOD sees that make a person lazy. Motivations, desires', passion, a purpose.. these are things that can only be found when seeking God. And it is an intimate relationship issue between God and men. She speaks as though she understands more than God about situations. Last person that had to learn a lesson from that was Job, and look what happened to the friends that thought they knew more about the situation than Job.. God, Himself, let them know it's not their business to be spouting off about another's life. In the end Job's patience was what God saw.
And what about those Men seeking after women? The best place to find her is with God.
"A woman's heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man should have to SEEK Him first to find her."-Maya Angelou
In the blog she also uses chapter 24 of Genesis for her scripture base, and forgets a key factor... finding a wife for Isaac wasn't about finding a wife for Isaac only. It was about keeping a covenant God made with Abraham, and guess what? Isaac didn't go seek her out, the servant did, because his father wanted to find him a wife. Abraham even specifically told the servant not to let Isaac go with him.. so Isaac had no control over the choice of his wife. It was completely God. Isaac didn't pick her, God did. Isaac didn't go after her, God brought her to him. This really is an amazing story of faith. Isaac's wife wasn't just some girl picked out of a crowd, God planned this even before the events took place. God's plans are much greater than we can imagine, so assuming that a guy isn't chasing after you means he's lazy isn't really a great way to think. And saying that men only find a woman when they chase after them is a stretch. That gives no room for the Holy Spirit! Jesus points out many times to the pharisees that it's not works that get you anywhere, it's faith. Sure, faith without works is dead, but you have to have faith first! Obedience before understanding! God wants us focused on HIM! And as He draws us to Him, HE will bring the one who He has called into our lives! We have to trust this. If not, then we are not relying on God, we are relying on our own blind desires.
And hey, if I'm wrong, then she has every right to call me on it.
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Tuesday, February 19, 2013
Sunday, February 10, 2013
Too many cooks, not enough servers...
I've worked as a nurse's aide for a company called Beacon Hospice going on 8 years now. For almost a year before that I worked in a nursing home.
I found myself thinking back over the years of my experience with working in several different places. I've been in many nursing facilities.. some have been good, some have been bad, and some have been horrible. The one thing that is consistent with all of them is the need for unity and respect for each position. From the nursing staff to the cleaning staff.. the kitchen staff and administration.. each part has a vital role that if it were to have a malfunction would affect every other department.
Just as an example I can tell you that the laundry staff doesn't seem like it's very important when you first think of it, or maybe the cleaning staff.. at first thought you think they really weren't that important. But then I think of the times when I've gone to get clean linens to change a patient's bed, or towels to use to help clean them up.. those laundry staff just got a lot more important. I've had times like that happen.. there were no clean linens or towels. Or worse.. no wash clothes! Man oh man, when that happens things get a lot more complicated. Or how about when the floor has been the recipient of a nasty spill.. Or the toilet gets clogged.. or even yet, needs cleaning.. things get dusty, and if they aren't taken care of it causes breathing difficulties for patients with weak lunges, asthma, and allergies. So imagine there was no one to take care of that! Yikes!
As an aide my duty is to assist the nurse and doctor in the medical care of each patient assigned to me. I work under the nurse, taking care of the physical needs of the patient, according to their own personal plan of care. I don't take care of medications, and I don't treat wounds, but I do help with daily needs the patient cannot perform on their own. What has become more than obvious to me is that if one part of the team is not functioning then my job has suffered. Looking for a clean wash clothe and not finding one when my patient needs to wash up is frustrating. I need the laundry staff to do their job, because without them I can't do my job. A clean environment also helps me do my job, it keeps bacteria and germs away so patients aren't unnecessarily sick.
Most of the job's importance are more obvious than others. The kitchen staff makes sure the patients are fed, and the administration takes care of all the paperwork. But everything serves a purpose, and everything is just as important.
I can't tell you how many times I've wanted to take someone aside to tell them just how important their job is, so that I can do my job. Some people don't know. Some don't care. But that doesn't change the fact that they matter.
That being said I wonder, why do some facilities have some of the problems they do? My thought? Someone doesn't understand the importance of their role, or that it needs to be their main focus. What do I mean? Well, imagine me going into the office and trying to take care of the paperwork. That's not my job, and if I'm not doing my job, then who is? I know my role. I know the importance of sticking to my role. If I want another role than I need to leave the currant one. But there are those who don't think like that. There are those who would rather criticize others on their faults then work on their own.
That's where the expression "Too many cooks" comes in. The saying goes "too many cooks spoil the pot" because there is such a thing as too many people doing what can be done with only one. It's sad really. It's already my duty to do my best, but when someone in another department takes it upon themself to tell me how to do my job it seems a bit unbelievable. That hasn't happened to me yet, but I've seen it happen to others. In many of the facilities I go to. I watch as the departments interact, gossip about each other, criticize each other, and generally cause dissension from within. And what does that accomplish? It causes indifference. It causes a stressful work atmosphere, and does not promote teamwork.
I'm mainly writing about my own work environment because that is where my experience is, but this can be applied anywhere really. From restaurants, to grocery stores, to clothing stores. Everyone can benefit from this basic knowledge. And that is to do the job you are hired for to the best of your ability. Every part matters, even the guy who mops matters. And we should all treat each other in different positions with respect too. I guess I'm tired of watching as things that could be prevented with this simple principle happen.
So easily fixable, yet people can't seem to help themselves. I had a third grade teacher who used to say something that drove me crazy, but now it seems the most fitting.. MYOB. Mind Your Own Business. We all should absolutely take that to heart, because if we aren't minding our business, than who will?
Just as an example I can tell you that the laundry staff doesn't seem like it's very important when you first think of it, or maybe the cleaning staff.. at first thought you think they really weren't that important. But then I think of the times when I've gone to get clean linens to change a patient's bed, or towels to use to help clean them up.. those laundry staff just got a lot more important. I've had times like that happen.. there were no clean linens or towels. Or worse.. no wash clothes! Man oh man, when that happens things get a lot more complicated. Or how about when the floor has been the recipient of a nasty spill.. Or the toilet gets clogged.. or even yet, needs cleaning.. things get dusty, and if they aren't taken care of it causes breathing difficulties for patients with weak lunges, asthma, and allergies. So imagine there was no one to take care of that! Yikes!
As an aide my duty is to assist the nurse and doctor in the medical care of each patient assigned to me. I work under the nurse, taking care of the physical needs of the patient, according to their own personal plan of care. I don't take care of medications, and I don't treat wounds, but I do help with daily needs the patient cannot perform on their own. What has become more than obvious to me is that if one part of the team is not functioning then my job has suffered. Looking for a clean wash clothe and not finding one when my patient needs to wash up is frustrating. I need the laundry staff to do their job, because without them I can't do my job. A clean environment also helps me do my job, it keeps bacteria and germs away so patients aren't unnecessarily sick.
Most of the job's importance are more obvious than others. The kitchen staff makes sure the patients are fed, and the administration takes care of all the paperwork. But everything serves a purpose, and everything is just as important.
I can't tell you how many times I've wanted to take someone aside to tell them just how important their job is, so that I can do my job. Some people don't know. Some don't care. But that doesn't change the fact that they matter.
That being said I wonder, why do some facilities have some of the problems they do? My thought? Someone doesn't understand the importance of their role, or that it needs to be their main focus. What do I mean? Well, imagine me going into the office and trying to take care of the paperwork. That's not my job, and if I'm not doing my job, then who is? I know my role. I know the importance of sticking to my role. If I want another role than I need to leave the currant one. But there are those who don't think like that. There are those who would rather criticize others on their faults then work on their own.
That's where the expression "Too many cooks" comes in. The saying goes "too many cooks spoil the pot" because there is such a thing as too many people doing what can be done with only one. It's sad really. It's already my duty to do my best, but when someone in another department takes it upon themself to tell me how to do my job it seems a bit unbelievable. That hasn't happened to me yet, but I've seen it happen to others. In many of the facilities I go to. I watch as the departments interact, gossip about each other, criticize each other, and generally cause dissension from within. And what does that accomplish? It causes indifference. It causes a stressful work atmosphere, and does not promote teamwork.
I'm mainly writing about my own work environment because that is where my experience is, but this can be applied anywhere really. From restaurants, to grocery stores, to clothing stores. Everyone can benefit from this basic knowledge. And that is to do the job you are hired for to the best of your ability. Every part matters, even the guy who mops matters. And we should all treat each other in different positions with respect too. I guess I'm tired of watching as things that could be prevented with this simple principle happen.
So easily fixable, yet people can't seem to help themselves. I had a third grade teacher who used to say something that drove me crazy, but now it seems the most fitting.. MYOB. Mind Your Own Business. We all should absolutely take that to heart, because if we aren't minding our business, than who will?
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